The Dark Side of Virgo

“The Dark Side of Virgo”   Virgos on a bad day are nags and nitpickers. Any Zodiac sign has a shadow side, from its own natural traits going to extremes. In Virgo, these are being relentlessly critical, hypochondriacs, obsessive-compulsive and control-freaks.


My husband Sandor is a Virgo and he is physically agitated when there’s a mess or his schedule is disrupted. The first time he flipped out over some dirty laundry on the floor I thought he was kidding. I still marvel at it, but that’s Virgo. They like things to be organized, and for the day to unfold as planned.


Virgos are actually hardest of all on themselves, in the quest for perfection. This natural Virgo trait of seeking always to improve, runs amok, when there are deep-seated fears of not being “good enough – ever.” It can lead to analysis paralysis — the inability to take creative risks, from the fear of failure. Virgos have active minds, ruled by Mercury, and they have a knack for sussing out cause and effect. That can become an inhibiting factor if all the things that can go wrong are given a charge in the mind. Virgos are challenged to tolerate that angst about uncertainty AND do it anyway. Take the right creative risks, and back that with preparation and skill.


Virgos are earth signs and have a particular focus on the body. So some turn all that intensity to the body and develop a warped body image.

One perceived flaw, like thin lips or protruding ears, can be all they see in the mirror.

It doesn’t help that we live in a society that judges books by their cover. The Virgo challenge is to see the uniqueness of the whole self, not one isolated, imperfect part. Virgos want to be in control, and together with a warped body image, this can lead to eating disorders.

 A path to healing is turning self-loathing into self-love and demonstrating that with small acts of nourishment throughout the day.


A Virgo that does too much can burn out and end up with digestive disorders. This is symbolic of taking in too much stimuli, without having a chance to digest it. Less is more, can be a powerful Virgo mantra. The overwhelmed Virgo is irritable, touchy and not clear-sighted. Virgos are mutable signs and can handle a lot of tasks, variety and well-considered change. But they avoid those extremes when they learn to say No, and to pass off tasks to others.


I had one of these years ago — a co-worker who never cracked a smile and was always on task. If you were idle, the seething judgment would be beamed on you, as he busily passed by. He would even roll his eyes and make dramatic “Lord, my load is heavy” noises. The intense work ethic of Virgo makes them feel they’re the only ones doing anything. This myopia takes on a life of its own in Virgo, and they lose sight of the big picture. Virgo can feel put upon, and grow to feel resentful and isolated. Some feel others get all the glory, as they toil away in jobs they might not even like.

Virgos have a hard time letting go of control since they see others falling short of their expectations. But when Virgo gives others a break, he gives himself a break, too. The goal can shift to everyone doing their best, instead of reaching some pre-set standard.


Does today’s reality show programming cater to the shadow side of Virgo? If you’ve seen television lately, you know it’s devolved to poking fun and finding fault.  I’ve noticed how they hone in on a star’s hands, to show they’ve — god forbid — aged!  Or amplifying supposed flaws, like when catching them with no make-up on. SylviaSky on Hubpages makes a great observation on shows that put Hollywood stars under the microscope. Sylvia Sky writes, “The daily celebrity gossip show TMZ airs video clips of Hollywood stars caught on the run.

Then the TMZ staff, a little clique of nobodies, ridicules the videos. TMZ was conceived and founded by a Virgo, Harvey Levin (Sept. 2), first as a website and then a TV show, and it exemplifies negative Virgo values and the way Virgo makes enemies.”

A curious angle about that I’ve noticed is that there’s a relentless need to show that stars are like everyday people.  They buy coffee or groceries; they take their kids to the park; they walk their dogs.  Perhaps it’s reassuring to see how ordinary and imperfect the supposed “top people” are.


When Virgo rises above these low vibe traps, doesn’t supersize her own flaws  She doesn’t stoop to picking apart others, and dials that down in herself. A Virgo might discover that there’s something driving that dark side behavior, and over time, work that out. Virgos are known for being patient and devoted to helping others. When that energy is re-directed, Virgo is a force for good, with pure motives.  ]]>